The majority of people, especially men, are indoctrinated and rewarded for holding back their emotions. However, this holding back is foolhardy, because, feelings are energy and will eventually break through the self-imposed barrier. When the feelings finally come through, it may feel as though an avalanche or a windstorm is erupting. For a period of time, the overwhelming force of feelings course through our body, which consumes, us and our functioning falters or stops. Often these eruptions can take us by surprise, welling up as we drive-sometimes resulting in road rage-watching a movie, or engaging in a mundane task. The trigger to this eruption of emotions may not be known, or if it is known, it does not make sense of the overpowering emotional response. This is because releasing accumulated feelings and what triggered the release was merely a catalyst for a much larger, albeit needed catharsis.
If you find yourself in such an experience, it is important that you allow it to proceed, rather than fight it or shut down. Wherever you are, you can find a place in which to let your feelings out. If you can not access such a place immediately, you can set aside time for yourself at your earliest possible time, perhaps taking the rest of the day off work, or asking a friend to watch the children, so you have time to decompress. The most urgent and important thing is that you need to give your emotional system much-needed attention. It is essential that you allow yourself to release the pent-up emotions, so that you do not create imbalances in your body and mind. Shutting down strong welled-up feelings can create a pressure-cooker effect, thus, causing grave consequences-such as: a stroke, heart attack, ulcers, high blood pressure, or other stress related dysfunctions.
When you feel better, make a plan to process your emotions with whom it is appropriate as quickly as possible or within yourself. If you have difficulty processing feelings with those who need to hear you or the other person is unwilling, you might need help. Engaging with a counselor or a metaphysical healer would be highly effective. If you are processing your feelings within yourself you might find talking to a trusted friend, journaling or meditating to be a great way to acknowledge and release your emotions.
Last, but not least it is imperative to make time in your life to process your emotions on a regular basis. You will create a healthy, balanced, and fulfilling life.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Life Coach, Hypnotherapist, Author, "101 Great Ways To Improve Your Life." Dr. Dorothy has the unique gift of connecting people with a broad range of profound principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one's daily thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net
